7 Tips for Creating Your Wedding Guest List

6/5/2025

One of the first big decisions you’ll face when planning your wedding isn’t what to wear or which flowers to choose—it’s who to invite. Your guest list impacts nearly every aspect of your wedding: the venue size, catering budget, seating chart, and even the overall vibe of your day.

If you're feeling overwhelmed about where to start (or where to stop), you're not alone. Here are 7 practical, wedding-specific tips to help you create a guest list that's both meaningful and manageable.

1. Establish Your Ideal Headcount Early

Before you start listing names, figure out how many people you can invite. Consider your budget, venue capacity, and the type of wedding you want. A 300-person ballroom bash? A 75-person garden ceremony? Having a clear guest count target keeps your list realistic from the get-go. The Lizton lodge has a maximum guest capacity of 200 people but with a sweet spot of 150-175. 

2. Create an A and B List

This is a classic strategy that really works. Your A-list includes must-have guests—close family, lifelong friends, and anyone without whom your day wouldn't feel complete. The B-list is for people you'd love to include if space opens up (and it usually does as regrets roll in). Just be sure to send B-list invites well in advance of the big day.

3. Split the List Fairly

Whether you're footing the bill yourselves or getting help from family, it's important to divide guest slots fairly. A common rule of thumb: one-third of the list for each partner, and one-third for parents/family friends. This creates a sense of balance and helps manage expectations early in the process.

4. Decide on Plus-Ones and Kids—Then Be Consistent

Plus-one and kid policies can get tricky fast. Are you inviting all couples, only those who are engaged or cohabiting, or just married couples? Will kids be welcome or is this an adults-only celebration? Whatever you decide, be clear and consistent across the board to avoid misunderstandings and awkward conversations.

5. Match Your List to Your Wedding Style

Your guest list should reflect the kind of wedding you’re planning. Hosting a formal evening affair? Inviting extended family and coworkers might feel right. Planning a relaxed beach ceremony or backyard celebration? You might stick to close family and friends only. Think about who fits naturally into the vibe you're creating.

6. Use a Guest List Spreadsheet or Wedding Planning App

Keep track of everything—names, addresses, RSVPs, meal choices, gifts—in one place. A spreadsheet or planning app makes it easy to stay organized and helps with creating the seating chart later. Bonus: it's super satisfying to watch those “yes” RSVPs roll in!

7. Don’t Let Guilt Guide Your Guest List

You do not have to invite someone just because they invited you to their wedding five years ago, or because your parents “owe them.” Focus on inviting people who love and support your relationship—those who will be genuinely happy to witness your marriage and celebrate with you.

Final Thoughts

Your wedding is one of the most personal events you’ll ever plan. The people who surround you on that day will shape your memories forever. Be intentional. Be honest. And don’t be afraid to say “no” when it comes to guest list pressure. Your wedding should feel like you—from the venue to the vows to the very last guest.

Happy planning—and happy celebrating!